Six ways to find gratitude in a "more is better" world

Six ways to find gratitude in a “more is better” world

Let’s be real — raising grateful kids today isn’t easy. Between endless ads, constant screens, and a competitive “They have it — I want it now” culture, gratitude can easily get lost.

If you’ve noticed your child acting entitled or taking things for granted, you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: gratitude isn’t just good manners. It’s a proven way to boost resilience, reduce stress, and build empathy and happiness.

The best part? Gratitude can be taught. Every day offers a chance to help your child grow more grounded, mindful, and appreciative. Here’s how to start:

Make gratitude a daily habit

Find a quiet moment in your family’s routine — maybe in the car ride to school or right before bed — to share a few things you’re thankful for. Encourage your child to do the same.

These daily check-ins build mindfulness and strengthen family connection. Over time, you’ll start noticing gratitude showing up naturally in your child’s words and actions.

Teach “need” vs. “want”

It sounds basic, but it’s powerful. Help your child understand the difference between essentials and extras. Food, water, and shelter are “needs.” The latest iPad or trendy shoes? Those are “wants.”

Do you talk about those in need? Volunteer or donate to a cause you care about? Involve your child. If they have an opportunity to see that not everyone’s needs are met as easily as theirs might be, they’ll start appreciating what they already have — and thinking twice before expecting more.

Encourage patience

In a world where everything’s one swipe or click away, waiting can feel impossible. Show your child the value of delayed gratification.

For example: instead of spending their allowance on small weekly treats, help them save up for something they’ll truly enjoy, like a new video game or art supplies. Waiting makes that reward even sweeter and teaches them that anticipation can be exciting, too.

Praise character, not just achievement

When your child shows kindness, honesty, or responsibility, let them know you notice. Celebrate who they are, not just what they do.

This shifts their motivation from seeking rewards to valuing integrity, and that’s a lifelong gift.

Reward thoughtfully

There’s nothing wrong with giving your child gifts, but be intentional. If rewards become expected, gratitude fades fast.

Instead of material treats as rewards, try verbal praise or special one-on-one time together. They’ll still feel valued, without developing a sense of entitlement.

Lead by example

Your kids are watching you closely. If they see you saying “thank you,” expressing appreciation, and finding joy in the small things, they’ll follow your lead.

Show them what gratitude looks like — to family, friends, neighbors, even the barista who makes your coffee. When you model it, you make it real.

The bottom line

Gratitude isn’t something kids just have; it’s something they learn. And it starts with small, consistent steps every day.

Raising kids who appreciate what they have — and who they are — is a goal worth setting and working to reach.